Found this sexuality radar chart in the AVEN forums here (credit to Hallucigenia for the charts and explanations)! I’ve given up on trying to label my sexuality for a long time, being that sexuality is a very complex concept and I didn’t find any existing labels useful or concise enough. I feel like this chart is an interesting way to visualize patterns and categorize different aspects of sexuality.
There’s two versions of the chart.
Fantasy - thinking of people in a sexual way, whether or not you have any desire whatsoever to act on those thoughts.
Primary Sexual - wanting to do something sexual because it’ll feel good.
Secondary Sexual - wanting to do something sexual to express love or to enjoy the other person’s sexual pleasure.
Primary Romantic - wanting to be in a romantic relationship with someone in particular, “falling in love”.
Secondary Romantic - wanting to be in a romantic relationship in general, being open to options should someone pursue you romantically.
Aesthetic - wanting to feast your eyes on someone because they’re pretty.
Platonic - wanting to communicate, share ideas, be friends. You don’t have to experience platonic attraction to enjoy having friends; in this context it measures a directed desire to get to know a particular person.
Physical - wanting to touch, hug, cuddle and so on.
The second chart I find to be too complicated for my needs but it does distinguish between desire and attraction, which some may find useful.
Primary Sexual Attraction: Sexual attraction to someone based on information you get instantly, like their looks or smell.
Secondary Sexual Attraction: Sexual attraction to someone based on the relationship you have with them.
Primary Sexual Desire: Wanting to do something sexual because it’ll feel good to you (physically or emotionally).
Secondary Sexual Desire: Wanting to do something sexual because of your partner’s pleasure, or for some other motivation such as conceiving a child.
It’s pretty easy to fill out in Paint and I thought I’d share uwu